Research is demonstrating that mindfulness can help us build stronger, more satisfying and resilient relationships - yet another example of how this innate human potential, when cultivated with benevolent intention, might help us reduce suffering in the world and increase wellbeing.
Emotional intelligence (EI), or the awareness of and ability to modulate emotions and interact with others empathetically, is positively correlated in the research with mindfulness and meditation practice. Cultivating EI helps us communicate, manage stress, and solve problems more effectively.
Self-care is something we must prioritize and attend to, not only for our own wellbeing, but also for the benefit of those we love. When we practice mindful self-care, we build the patience, trust and confidence needed to sustain compassion for self and others over the long term so we can truly make a difference.
If we begin to observe ourselves and our reactions to experience, we may notice how impacted we are by our perception of others' approval or validation on the one hand, and their criticism, disapproval or rejection on the other. This can make for quite a rollercoaster ride when we care deeply, but are not fully present to the subtle workings of the mind. Mindfulness can help us have greater equanimity in the face of praise or blame.
Compassion is a willingness to be open to the suffering of another combined with a desire to eliminate it. It is a fundamental attitude of mindfulness that is cultivated with practice. Compassion has many benefits for both the giver and the receiver and this has been documented in the research. Being compassionate feels good, reduces stress, improves relationships, and is correlated with a number … Continue reading Befriending Yourself