Like a tailor makes a “bespoke suit” for a particular customer, our unexamined minds have a tendency tailor our own “bespoke truth” that satisfies our preferences. But, when we ignore or exclude aspects of reality that we don't prefer, we miss out on important information that could be helpful in making wise choices.
Mindfulness practice is filled with paradoxes - things that seems absurd or antithetical at first glance, but upon closer inspection, turn out to be true. They provide powerful lessons that things aren't always as they seem and prompt us to look more closely at our experiences.
The cultivation of mindfulness is just one crucial step in our journey toward greater balance. Radical self-acceptance allows us to bring our whole selves to our experience so that we can respond skillfully to what is here. It encourages us to face facts, have an honest and direct relationship with ourselves and our lives, and ultimately become the lamp that guides us along the path to greater peace and freedom.
It might come as a surprise to you that something as calm, balanced, and rational as acceptance can be considered radical. What makes something radical? For our purposes, it means it is both 1) a departure from the traditional, and 2) complete & total. When we put that together with acceptance, which is allowing what … Continue reading Radical Acceptance
Acceptance is compassionate presence - acknowledging what is without judgment. It allows us to see things more clearly. When we accept, we are saying, “Yes, this is the way it is right now.” Yet, acceptance is not resignation. When we stop struggling against the uncontrollable, we have more bandwidth to focus on the things we can … Continue reading The Paradox of Acceptance